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Steps to Deal with a Child’s Tantrum

I decided to update this post because of a conversation I had with someone regarding a rebellious child. Many times a child behavior is a reflection of issues parents are facing in their relationship.  Parents that are arguing significantly and fighting in the presence of the child will pass their negative behavior onto their children. It very important for parents to understand their contribution to the child or children negative behavior. Parents should immediately begin to address their personal problems which will help address the child’s negative behavior before it become too severe12-8-2004 (3)-15. Parents should attend a life skills class and counseling to help themselves deal with their issues and the issues with their child. I encourage you never be ashamed of admitting you need help. There are many parents in your same position.

This post focuses on two main areas where a child might display a tantrum. Parents will learn ways to deal with a child’s tantrum at home, and ways to deal with a child tantrum in a public place.

 Ways to deal with a child’s tantrum at home

Step #1 Do not get angry

Suggestion: It’s not about you but about understanding the reason the child is displaying the tantrum.  You must understand the child is either testing a boundary or someone did something to the child or the parents contributed to the situation. You must determine the issues that caused the child’s tantrum in order to deal with the negative behavior properly.

Step #2 Understand the reasons behind the child’s tantrum

Suggestion: Ask  the child with a kind and loving heart what’s wrong even if you know. This gives the child an opportunity to communicate their feelings to you. You will be better equipped to assist the child. If the child can’t talk, ask the child to show you by pointing fingers.

Step # 3 Communicate with affection

Suggestion: Give the child affirmation that you heard them.  You should address the issue with calmness and love regardless as to who is involved or contributed to the problem.

Step #4 Avoid babying the child

Suggestion: The child’s tantrum might be a way of controlling you as well.  You should try to  avoid the trap of being too sympathetic.  A child knows how to manipulate you. Always deal with the child’s tantrum when it first starts. This will minimize a reoccurrence of the tantrum.

Step #5 Do not yell or scream at the child

Suggestion: Yelling and screaming only creates a bigger problem. You must model a behavior you want the child to use as a tool to solve problems.

Step #6 Keep trying to understand the problem with patience

Suggestion: It will help you to solve the problem with a caring and understanding manner. Look into the child’s eyes and firmly talk with love about the tantrum.

Step #7 Don’t give up if the child is not responsive to your strategies

Allow the child to continue the tantrum as long as the child is not in danger. Place the child in a safe place where you can watch the child.  Affirm your love for the child.  Let the child know when the tantrum is over, you will return to talk to them about their behavior.  You must endure the waiting game.

Step #8 Avoid giving up if the child refuses to listen

Suggestion: Allow the child to remain in a safe area. You can discipline the child later such as taking away the child’s favorite toy for a short period of time. Stand your ground, don’t let those tears and eyes fool you.

Ways to deal with a tantrum in a public place

Issue #1 Tantrum is a result of you refusing to buy the child an item

Suggestion: Share with the child the reason you didn’t purchase the item.  Let the child know the  negative behavior will not change your decision.

Issue #2 The child’s negative behavior causes you embarrassment

Suggestion: When you feel embarrassed about your child’s tantrum in a public place, you are most likely to deal with the negative behavior in an incorrect manner.

Issue #3 Child will not stop crying

Suggestion: You must endure the crying and not worry about what other people are saying.  Stay in control of your actions regardless of the child’s behavior without yelling or screaming.  It won’t be easy, but as the parent you must stay in control with a loving heart.  Above all, don’t give into the behavior.  If you give in to the child’s behavior, the child could use it against you the next time you deny to purchase an item.

Issue #4 Child sits on the floor and you have other children with you

Suggestion:  In this case, you have several options.  You could pick the child up calmly and carry the child to the car or the entire family could sit on the floor with the child.  Yes, right on the floor in a public place away from traffic.  Get the other children to understand what you are doing and that you need their assistance.

Issue #5  Arrival at home after the child’s tantrum

Suggestion: Let the child know the negative behavior was unacceptable and explain the consequences associated with the negative behavior.  Discipline the child.  You must choose the appropriate disciplinary action for the child.  Make sure you discipline with a loving heart and not out of anger.

Parents, never attack your children with demeaning words. Stand your ground with love and respect.  Raise your children to become nice, strong, respectful and successful citizens.  They are learning life long skills they can use the rest of their lives.  It is important to be great parents now while they are still soaking up knowledge.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

 

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Love

This article was updated to include additional scriptures as well as an audio file.  Please see link at the bottom of article.

L.O.V.E (Life Line, Obsession (passion), Victory, Enhances

(1 John 4:7-21, Luke 10:25-37, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

Points to Ponder

  1. You should always be prepared to respond to an unexpected question regarding eternal life (Luke 10:25-26).
  2. Jesus expects you to love God with your heart, soul, strength and mind and to love your family and neighbors as you love yourself (Luke 10: 27).
  3. There are people who will not show you love nor respect but will take advantage of you (Luke 10:28-30).
  4. There are religious leaders and fellow believers that will see you drowning in misery and will not show you love (Luke 10:31-32).
  5. Jesus expects us to show love to our neighbor regardless of their condition or position (Luke 10:33-35).
  6. There are times when you must show love by utilizing your time and financial resources to help a family member, friend or stranger (Luke 10:36-35).
  7. Jesus wants you and your family to be a good neighbor to those needing love and mercy. (Luke 36-37)
  8. Love is unselfish, unconditional and always seeking to help others (1Corinthians 13:4-7).

Something to Consider

“Love is a very powerful word but many of us take it for granted. Jesus explained to an expert of the Jewish Law what it took to inherit eternal life. These simple scriptures truly define our priority as love relates to God and others. The only way we can truly give love and accept love is to be bound by these following words. Jesus tells us we must love God with our 1. Heart, 2. Soul, 3. Strength, 4. Mind and 5. Love your neighbor as yourself.

Our heart is the key to supplying nutrients throughout our body which is essential for our survival. The soul is our life-line that returns to God. Our strength helps us to give love and our mind helps us to stay focus on Christ’s love. Our neighbor could be anyone, your friend, boss, stranger, church family, next door neighbor and someone who has hurt you knowingly or unknowingly.

These simple words are the key to love. If we truly love God, we should show our love as Christ extended his love to everyone. Jesus is always available to show His Father’s love so others might come to know Him. The world would be a better place to live if we follow God’s truths. We must drown ourselves in God’s gift of love so it might overflow to the lives of others. If you feel, you are not being loved, express your feelings to God. He will give you the desires of your heart.

God is love and you are a benefactor of that love through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. You will find true love when you love God with all your heart, soul, strength & mind. God’s love is patient, kind, protects, trusts, hopes, perseveres, rejoices with the truth, not easily angered, never fails, does not envy, does not boast, it’s not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, & does not keep record of wrongs. As a child of God, you must show his love daily and your heart will be content. Avoid debating with people who don’t agree with your  faith. You should love them too with your heart.

Written by: Mr. Wisdom

Audio Sermon on love  click on Strawter Love

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Forgive

This updated post focuses on how important it is for you to forgive those that hurt you to the core of your heart.  When you forgive, it will help you to maintain your Faith. It will give you strength to overcome Obstacles. It gives you the ability to Repent when you are wrong. It guides you closer to God and it will prevent an Infection of hatred from flourishing in your life.  When you forgive, you will also have Victory over your own life without others influencing you in a negative manner. It will keep you from giving in to Evil because of the pain you suffered from someone.

F.O.R.G.I.V.E (Faith, Obstacles, Repent, God, Infection, Victory, Evil)

Joseph’s rejection and forgiveness (Genesis 37:1-11, 50:15-20)

Solomon’s Prayer (1 Kings 8:46-50)

Jesus’ commands (Matthew 6:14-15, Mark 11:25-26, Luke 17:3-4, Ephesians 4:26-27)

Points to Ponder

  1. You must let go of the bitterness you have toward those who have hurt you (Genesis 50:15-17).
  2. Do not hold grudges against those that are jealous of you but forgive them and you will have joy in your life (Genesis 50:18-20).
  3. You must forgive people who sin against you just like you expect God to forgive you (1 King 8:50).
  4. If you don’t forgive people who violated your trust, God will not forgive you (Matthew 6:14-15, Mark 11:25-26).
  5. It is your responsibility as a Christian to forgive people regardless of the number of times they have hurt you (Luke 17:3-4).

Something to Consider

Is there someone in your life that has hurt you to the core of your heart? Your answer is probably yes! You are so angry with them because you don’t understand why someone who claims to love you would hurt you so badly. You might blame yourself or wonder what you did to deserve a broken-heart.

Life is very complex and challenging. However, we all fall short of the glory of God because of our sinful nature. It’s sin that caused an individual to hurt you. Just like it was sin that caused Jesus to suffer and die on the cross for you. He also died for the person that broke your heart and violated your trust. God holds each of us accountable for our own sins.

God  gives you a simple process for healing your broken heart. He wants you to rely on Christ as the source of your strength. Your healing process will begin when you forgive the person or persons that hurt your heart. It will not be easy but when you let go you will find wonderful peace in your life. When you forgive, you are no longer in bondage but free. Enjoy your freedom, starting today, as you forgive those who have hurt you. Remember! You can’t rely on others to heal your broken heart only God can.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

Audio File on Forgive

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Teenager Was Angry Towards Everyone Around Her

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Colleen’s Testimonial

My name is Colleen. I was arrested for shoplifting. I was angry when I got arrested but for some reason it was towards everyone around me and not myself. I was stubborn and very hard headed. I had a bad attitude and my temper was out of control. At first, when I was told I had to attend a class for shoplifting, I thought it was going to be a boring class with bad kids. It turned out the class was amazing and the kids weren’t bad at all.  Keys to Success is the class and I learned many life-changing lessons by attending it.

“I would just walk away any time things weren’t going my way, or when I was getting angry”

I learned many things that I will never forget. I agree when it is said people don’t change overnight.  But after one month in the Keys class, I did change in many ways and all were for the better. I learned to control my attitude and temper and to stop and think before reacting to a problem. I never thought in a million years I would change from a stubborn teenager to a more mature young woman. This class has matured me in many ways. I have always had problems trusting and opening up to people. I would like to thank my instructor for giving me the strength to do just that.

The main thing I learned from the Keys class was to communicate. I use to just walk away any time things weren’t going my way, or when I was getting angry. However, now I feel I can communicate my feelings with respect. I recommend that any young teen in my situation that needs an eye opener take the Keys to Success class. I know it will help you, just as it has me.

Thank you again, you have truly changed my way of thinking and from now on I will make wiser investments in my piggy bank.

Teen Advice

Colleen’s is a typical teenager that sometimes struggles with making right choices when things are difficult at home. She chose to allow stubbornness, attitude, temper and anger to control her when things became difficult at home.  Colleen has a wonderful heart but needed someone to inspire and encourage her to move beyond her past. She has a new opportunity to create a positive story on her new journey in life. It won’t be easy but she has already won the battle because she has acknowledged the error of her ways.

Teens, as you read this post, you too can overcome stubbornness, attitude, temper or anger if you obtain the help you need. Life is short and you must do your very best to not allow these four things to control your life in a negative manner. Learn to communicate your feelings with respect as Colleen did with her parents. Learn to agree to disagree without destroying relationships with your parents, siblings or friends. Remember even if you have made wrong choices as a result of your stubbornness, attitude, temper or anger, you can choose a new direction for your life and rebuild broken relationships.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2010 EnviCare Consulting Inc.  All Rights Reserved World Wide

Family Members Were Able to Survive Potential Destruction

Every family will face struggles in their lives.  Each family member must develop a relationship with God in order to gain strength to overcome potential destruction. Enjoy your Bible study today as you read Genesis 19: 1-29.

Genesis 19:1-29

Points to Ponder

  1. Angles arrive to follow through with the will of God (Genesis 19:1).
  2. God’s people can sense His presence (Genesis 19:2).
  3. There are times persistence will be beneficial (Genesis 19:3).
  4. Evil people will encompass us but we must not submit to their will (Genesis 19:4).
  5. We must flee sexual immorality because it can lead to destruction and broken relationships (Genesis 19:5).
  6. We must be able to recognize evil before it causes us to sin. (Genesis 19:6).
  7. There are times when we must make personal sacrifices (Genesis 19:7-9).
  8. There are times when our enemy will become aggressive toward us (Genesis 19:10).
  9. God will always fight our enemies (Genesis 19:11).
  10. God will give us an opportunity to escape disaster (Genesis 19:12).
  11. There are times when people will not take our faith serious (Genesis 19:13-14).
  12. When we respond too slowly, God will take control (Genesis 19:15-16).
  13. When we don’t listen to God, it can lead to death (Genesis 19:17-29)

 Something to Consider

 The people of Sodom and Gomorrah lived a life of sinful indulgence. They went about their sinful ways until God saw their sinful ways were too much. He knew their sins would spread like a wild fire. Therefore, God personally brought destruction upon the cities and the  families.  But God saved three family members because of His relationship with Abraham and Lot.  Lots other family members did not believe him and they lost their lives. Lots wife did not survive the destruction because she didn’t listen to the advice given to her by the angels. She looked back instead of moving forward in the right direction.

We must be very careful about the way we live our lives in our home, community, city, state, nation and world.  We must ask ourselves are we contributing to the destruction of our family environment?  God’s people must live in the world and avoid participating in the world’s sinful ways. We must grow spiritually through the darkness as the light of the world. You have the strength and the ability through your relationship with God to guide your family down the right path.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2010 EnviCare Consulting, Inc. All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Parents Share Their Personal and Family Goals

Have you thought about setting goals for yourself and your family? Parents discussed setting personal and family goals during an Importance of Family: How to Connect Workshop. Most individuals understand the process of setting goals in businesses but very seldom do they set goals for their family.

Every family should consider setting goals for their family as well as individual goals. It’s important to record your goals and track how you are meeting them. Every goal should be flexible because life circumstances can change without warning. We hope this information will inspire you to establish goals for yourself and your family. The parents were asked to print their goals and place them on their refrigerator as a reminder. Listed below are personal and family goals that participants listed and discussed in their small group. Perhaps you will receive some encouragement from the fact that others are facing the same or similar struggles as you and your family.

Parent #1

Family Goals

  1. Improve communication within the family
  2. More respect among each other
  3. Having children spend more time with their father
  4. Put more priority on the family
Personal Goals

  1. Obtain my master degree
  2. Become a probation officer
  3. Spend more time with my family

 

Parent #2

Family Goals

  1. Spend more time together
  2. Travel more often
  3. Improve business perspective
Personal Goals

  1. Spend more time together
  2. Spend more time on hobbies
  3. Improve my communication with family

Parent #3

Family Goals

  1. To be a better family
  2. Get more involved in church
  3. Help other people
Personal Goals

  1. To become a better dad and husband
  2. Improve communication with family
  3. Control my temper better

Parent #4

Family Goals

  1. Take more time to communicate
  2. Learn to understand one another
  3. Listen to each other better
Personal goals

  1. Stop yelling and start talking to my children
  2. Spend more time with my family
  3. Change my negative attitude

Parent #5

Family Goals

  1. Make better choices
  2. Want children to finish school
  3. Want individual family member to be successful
Personal Goals

  1. Make sure my family is taken care of
  2. Interact with my family more
  3. See all my children doing good in life

Parent #6

Family Goals

  1. Get everyone back to church
  2. More family time together
Personal Goals

  1. Listen to my family attentively
  2. Stop yelling
  3. Stop pointing fingers

 

Parent #7

Family Goals

  1. Get my children into college
  2. Get everyone to listen
  3. Improve children relationship with their mother
Personal Goals

  1. Improve my health
  2. Complete my college degree
  3. Set more goals for myself and family

Parent #8

Family Goals

  1. Get  every family member to complete school
  2. Get children in college
  3. Get a good job
  4. Have a family of their own
Personal Goals

  1. Complete my college education
  2. Get a better job
  3. Become a better parent

 

Parent #9

Family Goals

  1. Set family time (Game night, dinner)
  2. Teach the children the importance of respecting others
Personal Goals

  1. Stop disrespecting others
  2. Help with teaching and educating my children
  3. Bring religion back into the family

 

Parent #10

Family Goals

  1. Communicate more with my family
  2. Create a more positive atmosphere
  3. Do more together as a family
  4. Be more consistent
Personal Goals

  1. Put my family first
  2. Listen better as a parent
  3. Encourage family members more
  4. Be more understanding
  5. Refrain from name calling

Parent #11

Family Goals

  1. Start back having family fun night
  2. Bring more laughter to the family
  3. Allow everyone to share their personal feeling in a positive and respectful manner
  4. Want family to get along better
  5. Do something nice for each other
Personal Goals

  1. Finish nursing school
  2. learn to love myself
  3. Take time for myself

Parent#12

Family Goals

  1. Get boys headed in the right direction
  2. Happiness on the inside
  3. Positive attitude and secure in themselves
  4. More family trips.
Personal Goals

  1. Get healthier and loose weight
  2. Read more
  3. Special time for myself

Parent #13

Family Goals

  1. Help at home with chores
  2. Teaching my son and daughter to get along better
  3. Improve communication within the family
  4. Stability in the home
Personal Goals

  1. More family time at home
  2. Better structure
  3. Better expressing myself to kids
  4. Handling my money better
  5. Diet
  6. Get along better with my boss
  7. Being the best care giver to my mother

Parent #14

Family Goals

  1. Eat dinner together every day
  2. Communicate with each other
  3. No yelling or crying
  4. Trust my family members
  5. Love each other and not hate
Personal Goals

  1. Have less stress in life
  2. Have fun with the children
  3. Make more money
  4. Don’t quit sports
  5. Try to get perfect
  6. Improve attendance at work for whole year

Parents, please reflect on your need to establish goals for your family.  Most of the  parents spoke often about spending more time with family, understanding, listening and improving communication. You should encourage every family member to write personal goals.  This exercise will help you to focus on things to improve your family. Make it a fun thing to do after dinner or doing quiet time.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

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Parent Acknowledges She Never Wanted to Control Her Attitude

This post is about Shirley, a parent, who never wanted to control her attitude.  Shirley’s attitude negatively impacted her relationship with her children.

Shirley’s Testimonial

“The life skills workshop impacted my life because it helped me to learn how to control my attitude and temper. Before, I never liked to control my attitude.  Before learning to control my attitude, I would be frustrated with everything!  Now I don’t feel that way.  I am able to bask in the great feeling I have when I control my attitude. It makes me feel better. I enjoyed reading “Behind the Eyes of Juvenile Delinquents” as it had stories to which I could relate. The book helped me to deal with some situations I previously didn’t know how to handle. I appreciate having taken the life skills workshop as I now understand my life more clearly and I have become a better person and parent.”

Before learning to control my attitude, I would be frustrated with everything but now I don’t feel that way.”

Comments

Shirley is just one of thousands of parents struggling to control their attitude and temper. You might be one of those parents who have failed to model to your children how to control your attitude and temper.  Like Shirley, you no longer need to be in bondage to your attitude and temper.  Shirley found the keys to controlling her attitude and temper when she admitted she had a problem. Now, Shirley is better equipped to deal with her attitude and broken relationships with her family.  Things will get better because of Shirley’s desire and commitment to build better relationships with her family.

Parents, if you have a problem controlling your attitude and temper, seek help. You will not regret seeking help as you experience the benefits that come from reduced anger and frustration in your life.  You should always strive to do your very best to improve your attitude in order to be filled with joy and peace.  Never let stress, frustration, and anger keep you from loving yourself, your spouse and children. Let your home become filled with laughter and joy.  Joy is very contagious so allow it to infect your family along with teaching the skills needed for each family member to control their attitude and temper.  Parents, you are your children’s greatest hope for success. Parenting is not easy, but when you do it right, your family will experience success from generation to generation.

Believe that one day your offspring will be sitting around the table or campfire reflecting on the love, warmth, compassion, grace, mercy, and listening skills you passed down to them and they in turn to their children.  Parenting children should be fun and exciting during both the good times and the difficult times.  Love and commitment are the driving forces that will help you to control your feelings and emotions in a very positive way.

Parents, we hope these words have inspired you to never let your attitude and temper destroy yourself or your relationship with family.  Trust God to give you the strength you need to endure.  Release your heart, soul and mind to Him and the blessings will come as you patiently wait.

 Written by: Mr. Wisdom

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God Appears To The Wife's Husband

(Genesis 17:1-27)

Points to Ponder

  1. When God makes a covenant with us there are some conditions (Genesis 17:1).
  2. God will always confirm His covenant  with blessings (Genesis 17:2-4).
  3. When you are touched by God, you can’t help but fall down in awe of Him (Genesis 17:3).
  4. God gives His servants a new name (Genesis 17:5, 15).
  5. God confirms an everlasting blessing with His servant’s (Genesis 17:6-8, 15-17).
  6. God’s servants and their descendants must keep His covenant for generations (Genesis 17:7).
  7. God distinguished His people through circumcision of the flesh (Genesis 17:9-13).
  8. God communicates to His servant the consequences of being uncircumcised (V14).
  9. God confirms to His servant that his spouse will be blessed (Genesis 17:15-16).
  10. There are times when  laughter of doubt invades us because things seems impossible (Genesis 17:17).
  11.  It’s never too late for God to supernaturally move in our lives regardless of our age (Genesis 17:18-22).
  12.  Fathers and mothers must always set the example in the household by obeying God’s covenant for generations (Genesis 17:23-27).

Something to Consider

It is an honor to be chosen by God to be a blessing to the world. It take great obedience and leadership skills to listen to God and to teach our family, servants and friends about God’s covenants.  It becomes more difficult when age seems to take over our bodies and we wonder whether God is still active in our lives. We must always remember it’s not too late for God to move in our lives because He is the master of time.

Written By Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2010 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.  All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Reasons Some Teenagers Become Angry

It’s amazing how often people get angry because of negative situations that touch their feelings the wrong way.  During a workshop, parents and youth workers discussed the reasons teenagers become angry.  Their responses are listed below.

Why do teenagers get angry? 

  1. Lack of attention
  2. Lack of support to help encourage the teenager to improve or better self
  3. Lack of positive influences in their lives
  4. Feeling their parents don’t understand or trust them
  5. Being grounded for making wrong choices
  6. Being disciplined through use of a time out from their friends or school functions, through losing the privilege to use their games or phone, or loss of allowance
  7. Being told no, what to do, or not being able to have their own way
  8. Being told no they can’t have some desired material item
  9. Jealous of another person’s material possessions
  10. Having a set curfew or not being allowed to hang-out with their friends late at night
  11. Disliking a subject in school
  12. A stubbornness bent in the teenager

I’d like to share a story about Brianna.  Brianna is very smart and intelligent but struggles with anger issues.  Brianna has anger over her parent’s divorce that turned her life upside down.   Brianna loves her father but gets angry because he doesn’t return love in the manner she would like.  Her father buys her many gifts and while Brianna admits she enjoys receiving the gifts, what she really wants with her father is a relationship based on affirmation and encouragement, not things.  Her father doesn’t understand what Brianna desires in a relationship.  He is trying to show love to Brianna through gifts and things while Brianna is looking for love through affirmation.

At age 14, Brianna became pregnant from a young man also with anger problems.  To compound her problems with anger, Brianna struggles with stubbornness making it hard to reach her. Brianna lives with her mother but Brianna’s stubbornness causes them to argue and become angry.  Brianna has also started passing her anger on to her two-year-old child.  

Brianna has made great progress. An anger management class has helped Brianna to better control her anger and to learn not to get angry when a negative situation touches her feelings the wrong way.  However, she still struggles, as the hurts in her heart from some of the negative situations are not completely healed.  Her father is trying to do better but finds it’s difficult due to the issues he has in his life.  Brianna’s mother is learning to listen to Brianna.  This has helped to build a better relationship with Brianna.

Words of encouragement from family and friends have helped Brianna to deal with some of her issues. Many of the issues identified with anger during the workshop have impacted Brianna’s life.  It’s important  her parents, even though they are divorced, strive to understand Brianna and guide her back onto the right path. Brianna has a great heart and with the help of family and friends and a continued desire to change, it’s only a matter of time before she becomes a successful woman and parent.

Parents, please take the time to understand and listen to your children. They need you to be patient and understanding as you train them to become successful adults. You are the best intervention tool in the world for your children.  Remember, your children will face challenges during their lifetime. They need you to equip them with the tools to express themselves and to solve life’s problems.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

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Code of Ethics for Christian Families

This Bible study focuses on encouraging individuals and families to live their life to please God. We are designed to live our life serving others utilizing God’s code of ethics.

Deuteronomy 11:8-21, and Matthew 5:1-12

Points to Ponder

  1. God expects His family to obey his Commandments (Deut 11:8).
  2. When you obey God’s commands, He will give you the strength to persevere in achieving His will for you and your family and  you will be blessed (Deut 11:9-12).
  3. You must be faithful to God’s words in order to be blessed (Deut 11:13-15).
  4. You must not turn from God’s commands if you want to maintain your blessings (Deut 11:16-18).
  5. God expects you and your family to maintain a daily walk with Him as you live your life (Deut 11: 18-21).
  6. As a Christian, you have the responsibility to teach your family the truth. (Matt. 5:1-2).
  7. You must maintain your faith regardless of your position or economic condition. (Matt.5:3).
  8. Jesus assures you that during your mourning He will bring you comfort (Matt. 5:4).
  9. When you are humble as a believer, you will inherit the earth (Matt. 5:5).
  10. If you hunger and thirst for righteousness, you will be filled by the Word of God (Matt. 5:6).
  11. If you show mercy to others, Jesus will swarm you with His mercy (Matt. 5:7).
  12. If you maintain a pure heart through repentance, you will see God face to face (Matt. 5:8).
  13. Jesus wants you to assist others in resolving their conflicts and issues, Be a peacemaker (Matt. 5:9).
  14. If you persevere during persecution, you will see the Kingdom of God (Matt. 5:10).
  15. You must not allow insults, persecution and false accusations  to keep you from righteousness because Jesus will reward you for your faithfulness (Matt. 5:11-12).

Something to Consider

In the Old Testament, God gives us an example of how the family of God should serve him. As the Hebrew people prepared to enter the promised land, they were taught and given commands to follow in order to be successful in the promised land. There were several things that God asked families to do:

  1. Love the Lord your God
  2. Serve the Lord with all your hearts and with all your soul
  3. Fix God’s words in your heart and mind
  4. Tie God’s words as symbols around your hands
  5. Bind God’s words around your foreheads
  6. Teach God’s words to your children
  7. Talk about God’s words when you sit at home
  8. Talk about God’s words when you walk along the road
  9. Write God’s words on the door frames of your home
  10. Write God’s words on your gates

God gave His family simple commands to follow in order for them to be blessed because of their faithfulness. Jesus echoes similar words in the New Testament but Jesus focused on the heavenly kingdom and His desire for you and your family to live a righteous life on earth.

You and your family may have faced many issues that were difficult to handle yet you are still alive today to talk about them and to work on solving the remaining issues. Jesus has promised you and your family blessings when you follow His beatitudes or His Code of Ethics for Christian Families.

If you or your family are in the following conditions:

  1. Poor in spirit
  2. Mourning
  3. Meek
  4. Hungering and thirsting for righteousness
  5. Merciful
  6. Pure in heart
  7. A peacemaker
  8. Persecuted because of righteousness
  9. Insulted
  10. Falsely accused

Do not fear, Jesus is here and He lives in your heart. You have the Holy Spirit as your comforter. If you are in the above conditions, you will receive the following rewards for your faithfulness:

  • The Kingdom of heaven
  • You will be comforted
  • You will inherit the earth
  • You will be filled
  • You will be shown mercy
  • You will see God
  • You will be called the sons of God
  • You will have greater rewards in heaven

Therefore, it is very critical for the family to remain faithful in teaching and living the word of God. He expects each individual within the family to love God with all our heart, soul and mind. Jesus has given you wonderful tools and strategies to maintain your faith. You must believe and live by the Code of Ethics for Christian Families.

Written By Mr. Wisdom

Video File on Code of Ethics For Christian Families

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