I Immediately Blew it As a Mother and Wife!

Angel’s Testimonial is about missing an opportunity to listen to God during a difficult situation in the home.

Angel’s Testimonial:

“Lord, may the beauty of your Spirit be so evident in me that I will be a godly role model. Give me the communication, teaching, and nurturing skills that I must have. Make me the parent you want me to be and teach me how to pray and truly intercede for the life of this child.”

This was the first thing that I read this morning as I poured coffee and turned my daily “Power of A Praying Parent” flip chart conveniently located next to the lava maker.  I immediately blew it. I was impatient, short-tempered, and irritated with my daughter as she was getting ready for school.  It was her Valentine’s Day party, no less, and what a shining example of love I was showing! Surely God would understand that I was grumpy, tired, and clearly not in the mood to listen to Him this early in the morning.

“I am a very slow learner. God was speaking so clearly this morning and I almost missed it.”

So, God tried again. One of my dear Facebook friends posted this quote as her status….“Love is always bestowed as a gift―freely, willingly, and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.”

Once again, I decided that I really did not want to hear that! Especially since the person who penned that quote did not live with my husband.  Two for two already and the day had just begun.  But God was not willing to give up on me entirely; He persisted in trying to reach me. My usual morning radio show focused on Ephesians 5, specifically verses 22 and 23. “Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The Husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing.” Grrr…really? I need to love and submit even when I am not feeling supported and cherished?

Another dear Facebook friend posted that her husband was unable to make it home from a business trip as expected.  She was clearly disappointed. My husband works all day about 15 feet away from me, and I am complaining about it?

I am a very slow learner. God was speaking to me so clearly this morning and I almost missed it. Through friends, radio, flip charts, my family, and His persistence, I was finally able to realize His plans. I am so grateful for His grace and mercy on me. I am so imperfect and unworthy of it, but He still pours grace and mercy upon me because He loves me. I am in awe of that…He loves me!

To my daughter, Debbie, I apologized to her on the way to school.  She accepted, but I was feeling somewhat defeated and guilty, which maybe was God’s way of bringing me to my knees.  To my husband, James, I simply was quiet instead of pressing him to talk to me.  We had no real issue that day, simply the stresses of life, which can make or break a day. I just stepped back, and James responded accordingly by being loving. 

Look around today and open your eyes to what God is saying to you. He speaks to us all day, every day but we miss most of it due to the clutter in our minds and hearts.  Don’t miss it today.


How many of you can identify with Angel’s story?  Every mother, at some point, has blown an opportunity to properly relate to their daughter or husband.  Angel’s story is very powerful because she recognized a missed opportunity to respond to her family in God’s way. Because of her situations, Angel didn’t wish to hear those three, small still voices that came from God through others.

However, Angel reflected on the information received through the devotion as well as information from Facebook and the radio show.  It is remarkable that Angel concluded that God was clearly speaking to her that morning on three separate occasions.  It took God three times to get Angel’s attention, but the moral of the story is that she finally listened. God always patiently waits on us to hear His voice. He is a God of second chances or many chances.

Mothers, listen to those small, still voices God sends your way.  God is capable of using anything to get your attention when you are making wrong choices! Never let being impatient, short-temper, or irritated hinder your relationship with your daughter, son or husband.  It’s never easy, but you have the will power through God to deal with your situations.

Do everything you can to build a strong relationship with your daughter, son and husband.  Life is short on this earth, but remember that we have an eternity with God!  When your daughter becomes a teenager, it’s absolutely critical that you have established a fantastic relationship with her.  Model the behavior you want your daughter or son to pass on to their family when those wedding bells ring and grandchildren come.

Make sure you apologize to your son, daughter or husband when you have treated them wrongly.  Most times, they will be understanding because of their love for you.  Remember, you are not alone in your struggles.  Mothers are the heart of the family’s foundation.  Mothers, you deserve all the praises in the world for the many sacrifices you make to develop a great family!!

It’s fitting to end this article with Angel’s quote. “Look around you today and open your eyes to what God is saying to you.  He speaks to us all day, every day but we miss most of it due to the clutter in our minds and hearts. Don’t miss it today”

Recommended Article to read: How to Build  RELATIONSHIP with Your Child

Written by Mr. Wisdom

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