Teenagers are awesome in so many ways because they are filled with energy that drives them daily in the decisions they make. Many teens are interested in making right choices but sometime the challenges of life weighs very heavily on them such as education, divorce, poor family relationships, and peer pressure. There are times teenagers behave in certain manners which sometimes defile logic.
However, the best approach to understanding the choices teenagers make is to develop an open and honest dialog as you build a relationship with them. In this blog, I am sharing comments from various teenagers I have worked with relative to helping the teens to understand the power within to make right choices. But first, they must understand those things that influence the decisions they make and how those decisions impact their lives.
During one of my anger management workshop, I asked the teenagers the following questions and they are written in accordance with each person ‘s response. I have changed the names for their privacy.
Question: What is the number one thing that pushes your button with your parents?
- Telling me what to do
- Not allowing me to attend events
- Making me be by her side 27/7
- Yelling at me
- Making decision for me
- Not letting me learn from my mistakes
- Trying to protect and save me from things
- They don’t let me do what I want when I want
- Always yelling at me
- Never trusting me
- Never let a fight go
- Keep egging me on for a worse attitude
- Always making me baby sit
- Saying I am too young for things
- When they make me do ever thing all the time
- Being mad when I get a C and my brother fails a class
- When they don’t believe me
- When they blame me for something I didn’t do
- When I do something and don’t appreciate it
- When they focus on my little brothers more than me.
- When I do something good and they don’t believe I did it.
- When I am told to do something but they don’t ask
- When they tell me I don’t do something right or to the best of my ability
- How I get accused of things I didn’t do
- How they don’t trust me as much as they should
It’s always interesting to see how teenagers are willing to open up to others but they are afraid of sharing their true feelings with their parents because parents don’t listen and understand how their teenager really feels about things. Parents, I encourage you to take some time and have an honest and open dialog with your teenager. Please listen and respond with fantastic unconditional love. It’s not easy rearing a teenager but you do have the power to take constructive criticism from your teenager. You also have the power to patiently teach your teenager the life skills they need to become a responsible adult. Please take time from your busy schedule and build a stronger relationship with your teenager. Your teenager might feel the same way as these teenagers do. They deserve your attention and they need you regardless of their behavior.
Author: Billy J .Strawter, Sr.
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