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Parents’ Propectives on What They Learned and Will do Differently After Their Expereince in A Life Skills Workshop

This article describes how parents felt after attending a life skills workshop. They shared their perspectives on changes they needed to make in regard to their relationship with their children. or especially the teenager.  Hopefully, this information will be absolutely beneficial as you work to bring stability to your household.  Every family is unique but faces similar issues. How you respond to those issues can lead to a fantastic outcome or a night mare. It’s up to you to make the right choice regardless of your situation. The parents that attended the life skills workshop recognized the changes they needed to implement in their household.  If you can identify with their comments, please consider making the appropriate changes in your life and feel good about the decisions you are doing to motivate and encourage your children to be successful.

What did you learn from Importance of Family: How to Connect Workshop?

 

  • I learned to listen; communicate with my child whether than yell at them!
  • To listen to my child more.
  • I learned a lot about myself on how I need to become firmer as a parent, need to become consistent with my discipline and follow through.
  • I learned how to handle situations that I will come across with my kids in a more appropriate way instead of yelling and being negative.
  • To trust in myself and be confident and strong after being disabled. I had lost a lot of confidence but I have the same brain just not the same body.
  • To stop and think before I react to the child and that all opinions are important.
  • I feel I learned how to not only be a better parent but to be a better person.
  • To take time and listen to my children, and to be consistent with punishment. Try not to yell when they have done wrong.
  • I learned that to argue with a child isn’t going to solve a problem. It taught me that being open-minded goes a long way and helps to understand a child more.
  • How to communicate without negativity.
  • I learned how to speak better with my children and the need to spend more time with them and the listen more.
  • To listen, not overreact and to think positive and instill positive thoughts.
  • To be a better parent, how to communicate with my child without yelling. Let my child communicate their feelings, and emotions. I need to better my relationship with my child.

 What will you do differently as a result of the Importance of Family: How to Connect Workshop?

 

  • Stop yelling at them!
  • Have more family time.
  • I will be a better listener
  • I will be more positive towards the way I communicate with my kids and not yell as much.
  • We will communicate better, take the yelling out, talk and earn his trust back.
  • To calm down listen more and give more praise.
  • How I handle disciplining situations.
  • Listen more to what they say and have more family time.
  • I will change the way I handle bad situations by taking a breather then discuss the problem.
  • Stop my yelling, swearing and try to communicate more with my son.
  • I will try to be a better parent, person and so as much as possible to help my child.
  • I hope to make more time for family and respect my daughter’s decisions and opinions.

 

 Article by: Billy J. Strawter, Sr.

 

© 2012 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.               All Rights Reserved Worldwide

 

Parents Are Valuing Life Skills Strategies To Help Raise Their Children

Parents Are Valuing Life Skills Strategies To Help Raise Their Children

Listed below are comments from parents that attended a life skills workshop. We will continue to share with you parents perspectives on the values of attending a life skills workshop. We believe that our articles should contain information that reflects the challenges parents are facing with their children, especially parents with teenagers. 

Shawn’s Testimonial

“As a parent, I will work on listening to my children. I will work on yelling less to not at all. It was encouraging hearing suggestions in the life skills workshop and especially the things we are already doing now with our children. There were several times I questioned if I am parenting correctly. The life skills workshop helped to reiterating what I am doing at home is the correct path as well as room for improvement.

The life skills workshop should be offered to new parents. I thought the workshop was very powerful and helped me look at myself and what I need to work on at home. I believe more in myself.”

Matthew’s Testimonial

“I learned I needed more sensible discussion with my troubled son without some of the anger of past disciplining. I have tried yelling in the past to discipline my children. I have discipline while angry immediately after the incident. The instructor showed me ways to get things out of my child without yelling and being angry but to discipline the correct way. I believe my son will be a much better person after this workshop because my wife and I attend it together. I needed this workshop to take a step back and refocus my energy in a proper and beneficial way towards assisting my family and son.

Christiana’s Testimonial

“I now value the importance of building a relationship with my children including caring and making supper. It’s important that their physical, spiritual, educational and emotional needs are met as well.  I will stop pouring into my child yelling and begin to invest motivating, encouraging, and listening to my children. Instead of trying to rule over them, I will listen and try to get to the root cause of the problem. Sometimes, I walk away and never know what my son is feeling. When I do walk away, it hinders my son from wanting to do better and it makes things worse because now he is angry and won’t talk to me. I do still need to be firm and stand up for what I believe even if it’s not popular. I will share more encouragement, praise, love, time and proper discipline with my son.”

Jim’s Testimonial

“As learned in the parenting class today, it is important to be directly involved with your children in everything they do. By this I mean, you have to influence them from the time they are young and be a positive person in their life. Most of the things we covered are plainly obvious but it is so easy to forget of stray from these positive aspects. I believe that the life skills’ strategies will help me to refocus on these little things that make a difference. It will help me become more of a positive influence moving forward with my children. Instead of invoking negative thoughts, I will forcus on being understanding and caring towards my children.  Negative things can and do happen in life and as a parent, I have position of authority to help guide my children through their issues. I am very glad that I attended the life skills workshop and also that my teenager is involved in the anger management and critical thinking classes.

Article by: Billy J. Strawter, Sr.

© 2012 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.               All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Parents Must Understand Impact Their Behavior Have on Children Development

Updated

In this article, you will read about two different cases and how the families contributed to the development of their child’s negative and or positive behavior. These cases listed are true but the names have been changed. If you are currently facing conflict with a rebellious child, your first priority is to evaluate your contribution to the situation.  The old saying “It takes two to tango is very true”.  Please seriously evaluate how you are responding and communicating to your children, especially when you are:

  1. Angry
  2. Dealing with aging parents
  3. Discipline your children
  4. Experiencing relationship problems
  5. Facing lack of support from a spouse
  6. Facing health issues
  7. Parenting young adults
  8. Single and  facing issues alone
  9. Stressed over  unemployment
  10. Stressful  after work
  11. Struggling with finances
  12. Upset about various life issues
  13. Wrestling with your own needs

You get the big picture. Please read the following examples:

Family # 1: Embarrassing words hurt a child

A  sixteen (16) year old teenager (Mark) was very angry with his father. The father never knew the extent of the hurt he had caused his son.  Mark was experiencing  great difficulties with his father. They would get into each other face, yell, push and hit.  Mark sometimes would not speak to his father. The family sort counseling for Mark since he had an attitude and temper problem. The father was as stubborn as the son.  They had no respect for each other. During an anger management session, Mark shared that when he was nine (9) years old his parents invited some friends for dinner.  During dinner, the father jokingly asked Mark to say the word yellow because he would say Wella instead of yellow.  The father thought it was funny but it was an embarrassment to the nine year old.

It is very important to understand the sensitivity of your child. Words can damage your child for a life time. Words are dangerous once spoken and you can’t take the words back.  The problem was so bad the father and the son barely spoke or did anything together.

As Mark continued to experience problems with his father, he felt all alone. He had no one to talk to about his feelings and emotions.  He said his mother thought his dad couldn’t do anything wrong so he couldn’t open up to her. He couldn’t wait until he turned 18 years old to get away from home. He felt so much hopelessness and despair which translated into problems in school.  As a result of the anger management sessions, the father was informed about the pain and embarrassment he unintentional inflicted upon his son. After informing the dad,  he missed an opportunity to communicate these words “Son, I apologize for hurting you. I never knew I had hurt you so deeply. I love you very much. We can work through our problems.”  The father didn’t take ownership of the wrong he had done. This left a bad impression on his son. The father is passing onto Mark the skills he learned from his dad.

What could the parents have done to help Mark?

They did provide Mark with private anger management sessions. However, they missed the fact that they personally need assistance.  It was suggested to them to take a parenting class together but they didn’t listen.  The father needed to attend an anger management class as well and/ or counseling. Both parents should have made a personal commitment to work together to help their son. One day Mark will change when he’s ready. His parents must continue to work on rebuilding the relationship as they work on developing their own parenting skills.

Family #2: Dealing with a teenage son’s negative behavior in school

Mary,  a single mother was experiencing problems with her son acting up in school. He was thirteen (13) years old and His name was John.  He was a smart student but he tended to make poor choices  in the classroom which led to conflict with other students.  The mother wanted early intervention for her son.  She checked around to find private one-on-one anger management sessions for John. After she located a private individual to work one-on-one with John, she explained to the individual that John had an anger problem and needed help.

It was revealed in the anger management sessions that his mother was very demanding and had high expectations for her son. Mary really cared about her son’s success. She was committed and dedicated to make sure her son received help.  After completing the anger management sessions, John’s behavior significantly improved in the class room. His behavior improved with his mother as she recognized her expectations were too high. John is doing exceptional well in school and had fewer incidences because he was controlling his attitude and temper.

What did the mother do correctly?

She provided the support and intervened early before her son’s negative behavior became routine. If you are contributing to your child’s negative behavior, you must change your approach by building a relationship with your child. If necessary, seek intervention right away and don’t worry about what people will say about your family.  The longer you wait, it becomes more difficult  to change the behavior. Remember you are a role model for your family. What life skills do you want your children to pass onto their off-spring?

There will be a series of articles on Understanding Your Behavior and Its Impact on Your Child’s Development.

Article written by: Mr. Wisdom                                                          (c) 2009 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.

How to Build Relationship With Your Child?

Parenting is very challenging because each child has their own unique needs. The best approach to meeting the needs of each child is to build a relationship with them from the time they are born until they leave this world. You should always consider how your actions will negatively or positively impact the development of the relationship. Here are 12 steps every parent should consider in building a relationship with their child.


Step 1 Respect: Every parent should Respect their children in front of others regardless of their behavior. This will teach them how to respect you and others. Avoid trying to embarrass them in front of others in an attempt to change the negative behavior. It might work for the short term but long term it will backfire.

Step 2 Effort: It will take great Effort to understand your child especially when they are making wrong choices. When a child makes a wrong choice, take the time to talk with the child to verify why the choice was made. Don’t accept “I don’t know” but avoid getting angry because the door of communication must remain open. They will tell you the reasons for their decision,when they are ready, if the relationship is healthy.

Step 3 Love: When you child goes to bed or wakes up or comes home or telephone or e-mail you, tell them you Love them. Always give them a hug which will help them to relate to you and others. Avoid the trap of giving things to them to show your love. When you say the word, “I love you”, it’s more powerful. It’s sad to hear a child say my parents never tell me they love me. If you grow up in a home where your parents didn’t show love, you must not pass it on to your offspring. You have the power to change it.

Step 4 Affirmation: Every child has the desire to receive Affirmation from their parents about the wonderful things they are doing. Praise your child for the small things as well as the large things they do well. When they make a wrong choice, parents make a big deal of it. Yet parents don’t do the same for the right choices a child make. It’s not always about the great things a child does but it’s about the small things that will lead to great things.

Step 5 Trust: This one is very challenging for most parents. Most parents believe their child will make the right choice when they are around others. The big problem comes when the child violates the Trust. When your child has violated your trust, never attack their character but let them know you are disappointed in their actions. When you are angry with your child’s behavior, communicate your feelings with respect .Let the child know what is required to regain the trust. Make sure you discipline them for violating the trust out of love and don’t go overboard. The discipline should be based on current actions and should not be used as a dumping ground for previous behaviors.

Step 6 Inside: To build a strong relationship with your child, you need to know what is going on Inside of the child’s heart. In order to know your children, you need to spend time with each child collectively and individually. Breakfast, family dinner and church are great avenues to develop relationships. However, individual time spent with each child will give you an opportunity to build a deeper relationship. Every child’s heart is important. A healthy inside is developed by investing valuable time with your child.

Step 7 Opportunity: Avoid missing an Opportunity to support your child’s activities such as drama, field trips and sports. Do everything within your power to support your child. You also want to avoid getting too busy with activities which will drain you and the child. When you become too busy, your attitude might become unpleasant which could lead to damaging the relationship with your child. You must understand your limitation as well as your child’s.

Step 8 Nice: You must show you child the importance of being Nice by modeling the behavior. When your child is around you, they are observing every things you do. For example, have you ever looked at your child gestures or manners and they reminded you of you. Your child is observing how you treat others. You will never be a perfect parent, but should desire to instill great moral values in your child’s life. If you feel you have failed your child, let go of those feelings, start over again by investing wisely in your child’s life.

Step 9 Survive: With all the power you have within your being, never give up loving your child regardless of the wrong choices made. You want your relationship with your child to Survive. As a parent, you are training your child to be great citizens in this world. There are times when life is a struggle, and hopelessness as well as despair will overwhelm you. Don’t give up but teach your child how to survive with a caring heart and compassionate heart.

Step 10: Honesty: Model to your child how important Honesty is in a relationship. This will grant them greater success in life. You will have great reasons to rejoice in their success. When you see your child being dishonest, confront them right away with love. Make sure you have all your facts prior to discussing the issue. Ask the child about a different choice that could have been made?

Step 11 Intelligence: Use your Intelligence to deal with your child’s negative and positive behavior. Utilize various strategies to listen, understand and communicate to your child with wisdom. If you are experiencing problems with relationships within your family, don’t hesitate to get involved in a life skills workshop and/or parents support group. You are not alone; there are many parents who are in the same position. You have the power to make a difference.

Step 12 Prayer/Personal/Persevere: If you believe in Prayer, you should pray often for your child and family. God wants you to take Personal responsibility to train your child because the family is the heart of society. When the family foundation crumbles so will society. Your must Persevere when you are down and up. Don’t allow life’s problems hinder you from maintaining a fantastic relationship with your child or family. Be encouraged as you apply these twelve steps in developing a greater relationship with your child.

Mr. Wisdom

(c) 2009 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.

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