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Challenges Teenagers Are Facing With Their Parents

Challenges Teenagers Are Facing With Their Parents

I had an excellent opportunity to ask a group of teenagers about challenges they are personally facing with their parents. The teenagers were very opened to responding to the question. I do believe they were honest about their feelings. I hope the information contained within this article will assist everyone in understanding the challenges teenagers are facing with their parents. We need to understand the struggles  teenagers are experiencing in life in order to assist the teenagers in their development. Listed below are their responses:

What challenges are you facing with your parents?

Mercy: The challenges I am facing with my parents are they don’t trust me anymore because of the wrong choices I have made and because of the friends I make. They don’t help me when I need help.

Tom: Some of the challenges I am facing with my parents are poor communication and they are not listening to what I have to say. They do not give me a chance to make a decision on what I want to do. Most of the time, I do what they want or tell me to do but I never really get a say.

Jacob: The challenges I’m facing is with my mom. She is always thinking that I am lying.  Most of the times I take her things without permission but I can’t help myself. I try to ask but when I do she says no. I get mad and angry when she says no. When I ask my mother for something, she normally says no.  I end up taking whatever she said no to.  Then I say I asked and try to be nice.

Nathan: Some challenges I face with my parents is actual getting alone with one of them. We sometimes don’t see eye to eye. It gets hard when you are in the same household. That’s why I live with the parent I live with because I feel more comfortable and relaxed with. Another challenge that I face with my parents is being in self-control. We get out of control when a situation comes up.  Instead of solving the problem calmly and respectable, we react with yelling and disrespect.

Phillip:  The challenges I face with my parent are:

  1. They use up all the gas.
  2. They are gone all the time.
  3.  I am not allowed to hang out with certain friends.
  4. We have issues about my messy room and asking for money.
  5. We are arguing about grades.
  6. I am always being locked in my room.
  7. Yelling!

Faye: The challenges I am facing with my parents is that they don’t trust me. They never trust me know matter what it is. Another thing is they have trouble understanding me. They think they do and they do try. But they still fail to trust and understand me.

 Mark: The challenges I am facing with my parents are:

  1. They don’t trust me
  2. Problems with my dad
  3. Issues over homework
  4. My parents over complaining
  5. Issues with my siblings

Cam: I have a close relationship with my parents. But if we ever have any problems, it is about going out with friends and that I am hanging around. Some of my friends my parents don’t particular like.

Emmanuel:  I am at a very rebellious stage in my life. I want to be able to do what I won’t to do. I want them to stop trying to make my decision for me. This is a big challenge, but I am winning. As long as what I am doing does not affect how well I do in school nor put my life in danger, they should have no say in what I do.

Dexter: The challenges I am facing with my parents is them not believing in me when I get in trouble or tell the truth. Another issue is when we both disagree on something. Sometimes I can hear like a crying sound in her force but no tears.

Debbie:  The challenges I am facing with my parents is that I am never really able to get along with my mom for longer than three hours. Because when I am talking to her she will say that she does not want to hear it even if it’s something that I am worried about. It’s not like I have a dad I can communicate with because he passed away in a car accident before I was one year old. When I and my mom actually do get along its fun but I know it won’t last for long.

Ray: Some challenges I am facing is communication at this time. They don’t always listen to what I have to say or give me a chance to make a decision on what I want to do. Most of the time, I just do what they want to do or tell me to do so I never really get a say.

Parents, I hope you have had an opportunity to reflect on the issues teenagers or facing with their parents.   Maybe you are facing similar issues with your teenager and you are struggling how to deal with your situation. All of the issues they wrote about can be easily dealt with. As a parent and grandparent who have worked with teenagers for many years, the common mistakes parents make are listed below:

  1. Don’t have dinner frequently as a family. Eating dinner as a family helps with communication, listening and understanding what the teenager is facing.
  2. Don’t allow there teenager to rebuild trust as a result of the bad choices the teenager made in the past.
  3. Lack of awareness of their teenager need to make their own decision sometimes. They need to make decision even though sometimes they might fail.  You must guide your teenager through this stage of development because eventually they might become parents. It’s okay to monitor their thinking’s process, and give them some guidance with a loving, caring and compassionate heart.
  4. Unaware of the issues the teenager is facing in school.  Set aside time to get involved in the school and get to know your teenager’s teachers as well as the teenager’s friend.
  5. Didn’t take an opportunity to adequately explain to the teenager the reasons they can’t hang out with certain friends. It’s very important that the decision to limit who the teenager hangs out with is based on health and safety of the teenager. For example, a teenager was told that he couldn’t hang out with a friend because he was goofy. I asked him “What did your mother mean? He explained that his mother said “He was too messy.”  This is not a realistic reason to request that the teenager don’t hang out with his friend.
  6. Didn’t communicate their feelings to the teenager with respect without yelling
  7. Over reacting when the teenager make wrong choices

Parents, please take the time to understand, listen, trust, avoid yelling, and become the greatest role model for your teenager. There are other role models in your teenager’s life but you must be the greatest. A strong relationship with your teenager will maximize your ability to influence the teenager in an awesome way. You will always experience some challenges with your teenager. However, when the teenager becomes an adult the life skills you taught the teenager will be absolutely valuable and beneficial.

Written by: Billy J. Strawter, Sr.

© 2012 EnviCare Consulting, Inc.                                       All Rights Reserved

Parents Reflect on The Importance of Attending A Parenting Workshop

 I have decided to share with my followers the reflections of parents who attended a parenting workshop. The parenting workshop focused on strategies useful for parents to raise and build better relationship with their children. As a reader, I hope you will obtain additional insight on changes you might need to enhance your parenting skills as it relates to your family.  There are duplications but it was necessary to communicate what parents have in common.  I believe their reflections on parenting skills are beneficial to individuals with children and individuals that plan to have children in the future.  I personally enjoyed reading their comments. As you read about what parents learned and what parents will do differently, you will observe that the common strategies needed to improve parenting skills are:

  • Listen better
  • Stop yelling
  • Discontinue walking away from the child
  • Improve communication
  •  Be more patient

 Listed below are parents’ reflections after they attended a parenting skills workshop:

 Parents Share The Things They Learned During A Parenting Workshop

  •  How to deal better with my children
  • I learned a lot about new ways to deal with my kids
  • Parenting skills
  • Learned new techniques and skills to use when parenting
  • Set goals boundaries and consequences. Tools to deal with confrontation
  • I need to listen to my children more than I am doing
  • I was a refresher
  • I learned ways to interact with my child
  • How to communicate with family and how good the teacher taught us
  • Take time and listen
  • Techniques to help me better in parenting my children
  • Think a lot more before I react
  • You get what you put into parenting
  • How to be a better parent and person
  • That you should listen to your children
  • Listen to your kids and never walk away from them
  • To listen to our children
  • Family values and how to be an effective parent.
  • How to listen before I speak
  • Listen and don’t walk away
  • I learned parenting is hard but with the right parenting skills and tools it can lead to a successful child
  • How to take the time to listen to my children before reacting
  • I learned I wasn’t the only one with these types of problems
  • How to talk to my children better
  • I learn a lot about myself and what I can do to improve my parenting skills
  • It was nice to be present with other parents going through the same thing

 Parents Share The Things They Will Do Differently After Attending A Parenting Workshop

  •  Listen more
  • Take time to really listen for my kids
  • Listen to my kids
  • Listen to my child more
  • Must listen and communicate more with my children
  • I will listen more and give them more power
  • Listen better
  • Open up the lines of communication with my daughter
  • Communicate with my family and try to stop arguing
  • I have learned a lot of things I will implement ASAP. The first thing I am going to do is stop yelling
  • I will listen to the needs of our child. Communicate with them and walk together in all areas of life
  • Listen before speaking and reacting
  • Try to listen better
  • Treat my children with respect
  • I will change the way and manner of approaching my children.
  • Listen before I speak
  • I will listen and I won’t walk away
  • I will improve my listening skills and spend more time talking and understanding my child
  • I will listen and not react negatively to my children
  • I will not to walk away from my child when angry. I will sit and listen
  • Spend more time with my children
  • I will be more patient and listen better
  • I won’t don’t yell and walk away when I get mad

 Written by:  Mr. Wisdom

(c) EnviCare Consulting, Inc.                                                   All Rights Reserved Worldwide

Parents Share Their Personal and Family Goals

Have you thought about setting goals for yourself and your family? Parents discussed setting personal and family goals during an Importance of Family: How to Connect Workshop. Most individuals understand the process of setting goals in businesses but very seldom do they set goals for their family.

Every family should consider setting goals for their family as well as individual goals. It’s important to record your goals and track how you are meeting them. Every goal should be flexible because life circumstances can change without warning. We hope this information will inspire you to establish goals for yourself and your family. The parents were asked to print their goals and place them on their refrigerator as a reminder. Listed below are personal and family goals that participants listed and discussed in their small group. Perhaps you will receive some encouragement from the fact that others are facing the same or similar struggles as you and your family.

Parent #1

Family Goals

  1. Improve communication within the family
  2. More respect among each other
  3. Having children spend more time with their father
  4. Put more priority on the family
Personal Goals

  1. Obtain my master degree
  2. Become a probation officer
  3. Spend more time with my family

 

Parent #2

Family Goals

  1. Spend more time together
  2. Travel more often
  3. Improve business perspective
Personal Goals

  1. Spend more time together
  2. Spend more time on hobbies
  3. Improve my communication with family

Parent #3

Family Goals

  1. To be a better family
  2. Get more involved in church
  3. Help other people
Personal Goals

  1. To become a better dad and husband
  2. Improve communication with family
  3. Control my temper better

Parent #4

Family Goals

  1. Take more time to communicate
  2. Learn to understand one another
  3. Listen to each other better
Personal goals

  1. Stop yelling and start talking to my children
  2. Spend more time with my family
  3. Change my negative attitude

Parent #5

Family Goals

  1. Make better choices
  2. Want children to finish school
  3. Want individual family member to be successful
Personal Goals

  1. Make sure my family is taken care of
  2. Interact with my family more
  3. See all my children doing good in life

Parent #6

Family Goals

  1. Get everyone back to church
  2. More family time together
Personal Goals

  1. Listen to my family attentively
  2. Stop yelling
  3. Stop pointing fingers

 

Parent #7

Family Goals

  1. Get my children into college
  2. Get everyone to listen
  3. Improve children relationship with their mother
Personal Goals

  1. Improve my health
  2. Complete my college degree
  3. Set more goals for myself and family

Parent #8

Family Goals

  1. Get  every family member to complete school
  2. Get children in college
  3. Get a good job
  4. Have a family of their own
Personal Goals

  1. Complete my college education
  2. Get a better job
  3. Become a better parent

 

Parent #9

Family Goals

  1. Set family time (Game night, dinner)
  2. Teach the children the importance of respecting others
Personal Goals

  1. Stop disrespecting others
  2. Help with teaching and educating my children
  3. Bring religion back into the family

 

Parent #10

Family Goals

  1. Communicate more with my family
  2. Create a more positive atmosphere
  3. Do more together as a family
  4. Be more consistent
Personal Goals

  1. Put my family first
  2. Listen better as a parent
  3. Encourage family members more
  4. Be more understanding
  5. Refrain from name calling

Parent #11

Family Goals

  1. Start back having family fun night
  2. Bring more laughter to the family
  3. Allow everyone to share their personal feeling in a positive and respectful manner
  4. Want family to get along better
  5. Do something nice for each other
Personal Goals

  1. Finish nursing school
  2. learn to love myself
  3. Take time for myself

Parent#12

Family Goals

  1. Get boys headed in the right direction
  2. Happiness on the inside
  3. Positive attitude and secure in themselves
  4. More family trips.
Personal Goals

  1. Get healthier and loose weight
  2. Read more
  3. Special time for myself

Parent #13

Family Goals

  1. Help at home with chores
  2. Teaching my son and daughter to get along better
  3. Improve communication within the family
  4. Stability in the home
Personal Goals

  1. More family time at home
  2. Better structure
  3. Better expressing myself to kids
  4. Handling my money better
  5. Diet
  6. Get along better with my boss
  7. Being the best care giver to my mother

Parent #14

Family Goals

  1. Eat dinner together every day
  2. Communicate with each other
  3. No yelling or crying
  4. Trust my family members
  5. Love each other and not hate
Personal Goals

  1. Have less stress in life
  2. Have fun with the children
  3. Make more money
  4. Don’t quit sports
  5. Try to get perfect
  6. Improve attendance at work for whole year

Parents, please reflect on your need to establish goals for your family.  Most of the  parents spoke often about spending more time with family, understanding, listening and improving communication. You should encourage every family member to write personal goals.  This exercise will help you to focus on things to improve your family. Make it a fun thing to do after dinner or doing quiet time.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

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