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Learn From Parents: The Reasons Teenagers Find Themselves in Trouble

In this article, you will find a list of reasons teenagers find themselves in trouble. A group of parents, in small groups identified many of the reasons.  Hopefully, this information will help you identify issues you are facing with your teenager and to seek the help they need to address the issues.

Reasons Teenagers Find Themselves in Trouble?

  1. Peer pressure
  2. Their Environment
  3. Truancy
  4. Parents not checking in on him or her
  5. Added stress of being a role model to their other siblings in the home
  6. Too much free time
  7. Boredom
  8. Not enough supervision
  9. Insufficient things to entertain themselves
  10. To get back at their parents for disciplining them
  11. Following older kids
  12. Changes in society
  13. Broken families
  14. Alcoholism and drugs
  15. No positive influences

Parents, there are many reasons that contribute to teenagers getting themselves in trouble. The above list does not include everything.  The more you are aware of things that impact your child the better equipped you will be to assist your teen. Broken families are the primary factor that contributes to the negative behavior of teens.  You have the power to shape the direction of your teen.  Although there are many other reasons teens find themselves in trouble, as the parent, you have the greatest influence on your teen’s life.

“A dose of forgiveness is the greatest medicine you can use when your teen is in trouble.”

Parents, you must stand up and provide your teen with the life skills needed in order to overcome troubles.  Get engaged in your teen’s life but don’t smother them.   Balance your concerns for your teen’s safety and yet give them an opportunity to learn the skills they will need as an adult.  You must trust your teen and be patient when they make wrong choices.  Maintain a great relationship with your children before and when they become teenagers.  A dose of forgiveness is the greatest medicine you can use when your teen is in trouble. Show unconditional love as you work with them through their difficult times.

Written by Mr. Wisdom

 

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Teenager Expects a Stronger Relationship with Family

This is a testimonial about Thomas, a teenager who recognized the need to control his attitude and temper.

 Thomas’ Testimonial-

I attended a class to help me understand how to turn negative situations around into positive ones in my life.  I learned to think about consequences of my actions before I make a decision because my actions have hurt someone’s feelings or led to a fight.

“I know that being in control will help me to respect others and myself”

I learned that controlling my attitude and temper would help me be a better person and achieve my life’s goals.  I know that being in control will help me to respect others and myself. Controlling my attitude and temper will also help me to grow stronger more positive relationships with my family, friends and others around me.

Being in control will prevent regret and pain. I think this class should be available to adults and teens even if they haven’t gotten into trouble.  They could use these lessons and methods as a reminder to help their friends or family to properly resolve their problems.  I am glad I was a part of this life skills ‘anger management class’ program. It has made a huge impact on my life and me as a person.

Comments

Thomas is just an ordinary teenager struggling to live his daily life.  Perhaps you have a son or daughter who’s out of control and you don’t know how to handle your rebellious teen’s negative behavior.  It may be you have given your teenager advice over and over again and you feel as though you are running into a brick wall.  The more you give your teen good advice, it seems as though the teen continues to rebel against every word you say.  Sometimes you might wonder if the hospital gave you the right child.

Never give up on your teen! Do everything within your power to save your teen.  Sometimes parents are too close to the situation to make a difference.  In Thomas’ situation, he was ready to change. Thomas realized, after taking the anger management program, that his temper was negatively impacting his family and friends.

It is now up to Thomas’ parents to help him be successful in life.  Thomas is ready to listen to his parents.  The basic mistakes parents make when their teen is trying to change are listed below:

  1. Instead of believing in hope, parents sometimes doubt their teen is really going to change.
  2. Instead of saying to their teen, “We are going to give you an opportunity to prove yourself, “ parents will say, “I’ve heard that before.”
  3. Instead of recognizing the small changes their teen has accomplished, parents sometimes  focus too much on past behavior.
  4. Instead of patiently waiting on their teen to improve their behavior, parents expect their teen’s behavior to change overnight.
  5. Instead of sitting down with their teen to discuss and reflect on the reoccurring problem, parents sometimes start yelling at their teen as soon as negative behavior manifests itself again.

Parents, it was a huge step for Thomas to admit he had an anger problem.  Thomas recognized he needed to change his behavior.  Thomas has gained new skills to help him communicate his feelings with respect.  You must believe your teenager will change at some point.  No matter how bad the situation may be, always give your teen a lifeline.  A parent’s love and beautiful heart is the guiding light to return their teen to a renewed relationship with their family.

Written by: Billy J. Strawter, Sr

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